At least Anne wasn't alone at the end
At least Anne wasn't alone at the end
Dude I think I'm one of the few people here who can say I know exactly how you feel.
Narrowly missed a massive accident two years ago when a drunk driver came speeding from the front and lost control of his Opel Corsa on Baden Powell.
I swerved off the road and lost it and came round 180 degrees just to see the speeding black Corsa hit the car behind me (another Corsa) and proceeded to flip onto his roof.
First one the scene I found the two guys in the back of the black Corsa flat like spaghetti pancakes with no possible sign of life. The car reeked of alcohol while on it's roof and considering the speed the guys were coming at us I actively turned away from them to go look at the other car which were the unfortunate victims.
There we also found a young girl completely and utterly mangled by the car ramping off that side with half her face ripped off/open her arms stuck and broken in multiple places to the point where the bones were sticking through.
I've helped and been witness to many bike accidents and this was hands down the most terrible sight I have ever seen.
All I can say is that if you feel you need psychological help go and do it NOW. Don't try to be manly and convince yourself you don't need it. If you are shattered enough to post about it here then I think you already need it. Your medical aid will pay for it as well.
If you don't get the help it will bother you for years and affect you in many more ways than you could ever imagine. My girlfriend (now wife) still freaks out inside a car if anything so much as moves on the road and if I even approach anything over 120 I get told to please slow down...even though my driving is what saved us that day.
She survived but I believe had massive facial surgery and I'm not sure what she looks like today. I am however aware that she was claiming 2 million odd rand from the offenders and/or RAF which I'm not even sure is enough to make it worth all of that pain and suffering.
As with all things judicial the case has not gotten anywhere in more than two years. The two guys in the front seat were confused at the scene so nobody was sure who the driver was after the fact, both claimed not to have been driving and blamed the other. I'm lead to believe the one died a month later, the other still vehemently denying he was the driver although I'm pretty sure he was from my own memory.
Although a case of culpable homicide was opened we have yet to be summonsed to attend court and I don't think a blood alcohol test was ever done on the day so there's probably little ground for that to be used as a conviction. The tyre marks did however indicate the high speed of travel which is the only real indicator of wrong doing, but even then the detective told us with the two people involved and denial of driving the chances are that they would simply get away with a small fine.
I'm not even against speed, and personally don't believe it to be a killer in itself. But there is a time and place for everything...and being out of your mind drunk behind the wheel is far worse than speeding. Doing both at the same time...just plain selfish.
You know, reading this – Sauron’s story just once again reminds me why I detest Alcohol so ****** much.
I was in an accident as a child too with my **** drunk father driving the car and skipping a stop sign. A car hit us on the side – the back side door where I was sitting. Luckily the car had slowed down / hit brakes enough so as to not hit us too hard but I was bruised and sore for 2 weeks.
I wish my mom did not cremate my father. I would have liked to just go past his grave every now and again to take a p1ss on it.
Guy I worked with in East London – his 4 friends (2 guys and 2 chicks) was driving down from Joburg to East London to visit him and his family over a long weekend. A drunk driver hit them from the side and their car spun of the road, rolled and caught fire. People stood there listing to the screams as all 4 burned to death in the car. NOTHING happened to the drunk driver.
I swear I would ****** have killed him.
Well it’s been a hectic last 5 days or so, every time I close my eyes I can tell you exactly how many pieces of shattered glass there are, where the various parts of the car are scattered even the lines the leaking vehicle fluids are snaking across the tarmac, but let us not go there now, having said that I’ve kinda not wanted to have to respond to this thread as it might mean an end to an otherwise short life and memory already, but it probably needs to be done.
I’ve been near death several times some more violent then others, seen the results of various forms or ways to go, depart, expire isn’t there a better term for this?
But this, this was different, how does one explain without sounding cliché? There was a light there, no more a spirit or something there, then in a blink gone, only darkness.
The mind tends to wander after that, you start to question whether we are just carbon based sentient beings, spinning on a tiny rock at about 1600km/h while hurtling around a huge ball of fire at about a 100000km/h but really heading nowhere or is there more, but I’ll leave it there.
If there is more it starts with forum members (I’m going to only mention 2 but it does not negate the rest of your support) like Sauron, thanks for sharing and yes I went for every test possible,(Seriously Thanks) and Darkling, bro thanks just knowing the offer was there helped. Don’t mean to embarrass either of you but it had to be said.)
Finally I’m out of the country early in the AM but have booked with a specialist for counselling the day I land (okay the following morning).
R.I.P. Anne, I’ll never forget you.
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Good Luck Man. I also went through a tragic accident almost 10 years ago. My girlfriend and me were driving. She was actually the driver. We had both been drinking and partying as we normally did. On our way home she drove right past her house saying she wanted to drive a little more. Long story short , she swerved the car at high speed and we rolled twice. Straight after this I tried to squueze her leg and ask if she was ok -- no answer , I was 2 blocks from a friends house to which I ran and asked them to call paramedics , I ran back to the accident and got her out the car ,I tried to resuscitate her and tried everything I could , a few minutes later the paramedics arrived and announced that she was dead.
She was a best friend for over 8 years and a new girlfriend at the time. It took me many many years to get over it and to forgive myself for what had happened. I will never forget Catherine and the only advice I can give is to have loved ones close and talk about it as much as you need to. Even if you say the same thing 100 times , each time the burden feels a little less.
I wish nothing but peace for you and Im really happy that you stayed and helped someone pass on with someone there instead of being all alone. You may have to pay the price with these memories and feelings , but what you have done for Anne is very heroic.
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